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Thankfuls 24/04/2019

It has been a long, long time since I have written a blog post.
I don't know why, it has taken me so long, nor shall I apologise for it.
I could give you a thousand excuses and reasons, but I guess the main reason is that I didn't feel like I had an awful lot to say!

That is not true, I always have a lot to say. The topics that have been on my mind however are quite emotive (mostly Brexit related, and let's be honest we have read and heard more than enough about that shite), and it is very difficult to write something when you yourself don't even understand how you feel about it.

For me it is mostly disappointment, and nobody wants to read a whole blog piece about me feeling disappointed. So tonight, I am writing a much more positive one. I am writing some thankfuls.
I have spent the last few months reading and writing. I have spent some time with my family back in Ireland, and spent some wonderful time with Stuart, his family and my friends here in Aberdeen. I was reflecting on all this the other day and I realised how lucky I am to lead the life I lead, and I have so much to be thankful for. So lets get going....

1. Stuart

He was obviously going to be my number one, wasn't he? We have been together a year and a half now, and I count my lucky stars every day that our paths crossed when they did. I never thought I would meet someone like him, and had made myself adequately content with the thought of living my life out as a singleton until he came along. I dated, but a lot of the time that was more to combat boredom in a city where I knew relatively few people. Then he happened.
He makes me laugh. A lot. He has a great sense of humour, which sometimes can be misplaced. But he can always make me chuckle. I love when he gets a proper fit of the giggles. His eyes water, his feet move independently of his body and he makes a noise that sounds something like a dying yak, and a drowning seal. It makes me happy that I can make him laugh too.
He makes me feel safe, secure and most importantly very loved. I didn't realise how important that is to me. I am very much able to mind myself thank you very much, but I know that I will always have my Stuart fighting my corner for me. Even with his little arms....
Being with Stu makes me excited about my future. It makes me want to be the best person I can be. I am very thankful to have someone in my life who makes me feel that way.

2. My family

I have been very fortunate in that I have been able to see my family twice this year already. That's already double how much I got to see them last year! I spent my birthday in Ireland, and it has been the first time in I don't know how many years (definitely double digits), that I got to spend my birthday with my dad.
It is an odd thing, I never think of not being with him as a sad thing because I normally have something on or somewhere to go, but when the opportunity arose where I could be there with him on the day itself, I was so excited. We got to spend time with him for a few days, and we got to see a lot of my family which was lovely too. I am so very thankful that Stuart is always happy to come over with me, and my family are so good to him when they meet him. I got very homesick last year, for the first time in a long time and I am glad to say that I have gotten over that little bump. It is lovely to know that I will always have somewhere to go when I want to go back for a visit. They are a fantastic bunch. I just love them all so much.
We spent some time with my Auntie Vera when we were over, and it warms my heart to see the relationship she has with Stu. They simply adore each other! I think they are having a wee sing-song in the photo. We brought Stuart to a pub called Durty Nelly's and he loved it. Mussels, wine and Guinness in hand of course!



3. Aberdeen

You weren't expecting Aberdeen to feature, were you!!Aberdeen has grown on me a lot. I have created a great life here. Aberdeen has given me a job I adore, a man I love, friends I cherish, sour beer, Nuart etc.... I even have a little niece in Aberdeen who I absolutely worship. I mean I would walk the world for that little cherub. She is the best.
Aberdeen has made me a stronger person. A better person. It has re-opened my heart.
I am very thankful for all the opportunities it has given me.
I am very thankful for the life that I have created here.
There are aspects of my old life that I do miss. People, places etc... but I have learnt that those who want to stay in touch with you do. Those are the friendships to carry with you. I think that leads nicely on to my next thankful....

4. My friends

You know, I lucked out with my friends. I really did. Some friends are new, some are old. Some live here, some live in other parts of Scotland, some in Ireland and some very far away. But my pals are amazing. We had a wee birthday night out in Aberdeen for my pal Justin and I (because we are kind of birthday twins and because we just fancied an excuse for a night out), and there were so many fun faces. It is always odd when your random groups of pals meet, and the various elements of your personality are exposed. My pals Paul and Carol came up from Glasgow and were an instant hit (hardly surprising), Simon and Lara popped in for an hour which was a fantastic treat, as I haven't seen them properly in AGES, then I had pals who I see regularly but never together mingle and get on and I think we all had a pretty fantastic night. I felt so special. Special not because it was my birthday, but special because I am certain that not everyone has such a great bunch of people around them.
Not everyone could attend of course, which is to be expected, but between the kind messages, and embarrassing photos etc... I was so thankful of everyone I am privileged to call my friend.

5. My job

I love it. I do. I love the people, I love the charity stuff I get to take part in, I love the things I am able to do for my team. My boss is fab, my management team are scallywags with bundles of charm, my associates are a fantastic bunch. I am very lucky. I am thankful that my job allows me to go and do all the things I do. Not only through work, but outside of work. I am thankful that I can go away for weekends with Stu. I am thankful that I can go and buy something because I want it, not because I need it (I not sure Stuart is particularly thankful for my "tat"), I am thankful that I can save for my future. For our future.

6. Game of Thrones

How did I only start watching this in February? I love it. I love it. I love it. I have more theories than Freud did. I have a new desire for a tattoo of either the dragons or a direwolf. I have to fight the urge to stay up until 2 to watch the new episodes for the next 4 weeks. I hum the tune all day long. I quote it all day long. I think about it all day long. I am not prepared for the upcoming carnage, but I also can't wait for it. I am so thankful that Stuart convinced me to watch it. I am also so thankful that so many of my team follow it at work. I am also extremely thankful for the miniature Raegal keyring my associate Connie gave me last week. I now have my own dragon!!

7. Evie

It had to happen, Evie had to get a mention.
I am so thankful that I get to be Auntie Lou. I have had the privilege before of being Auntie Louise, and it broke my heart when I had to give it up. I think turning 35, it is natural that I have started to feel a little bit broody. Evie does not help the situation at all. She has the most intoxicating blue eyes which make me melt, she loves to hold your hand and walk alongside you (a killer on the back but totally worth it), and she is just a bundle of cuddles and kisses. She has her Uncle Stu wrapped around her little finger, and when I have to scold her for throwing oranges or pears at his face or all over the floor, the two of them have this little moment of 'oh here we go... ginger Lou is showing'. I love that Evie is the reason I have such a great relationship with Jodie. We met while she was pregnant, and our friendship blossomed alongside her bump. I am so thankful that we get on so well, even if that did mean a detailed, live action account of her labour via messenger... Not everyone is fortunate enough to be handed a sister in law who becomes her best friend. I am thankful that I get to spend so much time with these two wonderful ladies.


I have just realised the time, and it is definitely time for me to go, so that will have to be enough thankfuls for one night.

I would love to hear what you guys are thankful for? Feel free to let me know in the comments :)


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