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The dark side of being an ex-pat

Yesterday I had a lovely catch-up with a friend of mine.
It was a much overdue chat, and we spoke about the last six months or so and had a general catch up on what has been going on in each others lives.
We have similar lives, we both live abroad, we are both in our thirties, we are both single after long term relationships and I was so surprised to discover that we have both spun through the same wheel of emotion within the last six months. It was reassuring to know that I am not the only one that it has happened to and I think she felt the same way. I feel like our conversation warrants a blog of its own.

Let me share.
It is difficult living away from your motherland.
It doesn't matter if you are in Guernsey or Ghana, you can feel a million miles away from life sometimes.
A loneliness can hit that is really difficult to shake.
A lack of belonging can consume you.
Sometimes all you want is a hug, but there is literally no one around/in the city to give one.
That feeling of being l…

Davet and Caoimh, oh what a wedding!

I was delighted to receive an invitation to the recent wedding of an old university friend Davet, and his beautiful lady, Caoimh. It was a very unexpected invitation considering that up until the wedding I had only met the bride twice, and I had only seen Davet twice in 8 years, but it was an invitation that filled me with excitement.


May, two years ago, I was in London for a training day with my two Glaswegians. I mentioned on facebook that I would be down there and I got a message from Davet saying to get in touch it would be great to meet. I dragged the boys across the city with me and we met Davet and Caoimh. It was my first time meeting her and I adored her instantly. While Davet and the boys discussed politics, Caoimh and I did the Irish ritual of 'who do you know, who do I know, are we related?'. We chatted so much, the Glaswegians thought that it was Caoimh who I knew, and Davet who I had just met. Caoimh told me that an old university pal of mine was coming to Edinbur…